A small change in mindset could change your life: think of nothing that happens as either good or bad. Stop judging, stop expecting.
All you have to do is say, ‘That wasn’t good or bad, it just happened, it just is.’
With this little change, you will no longer expect good things to happen (or bad things), but will just take things as they come, and be content with whatever comes.
Start by being more aware. Throughout the course of the day today, note when you make judgments, note when you have expectations, and when things don’t live up to them. Over time, you’ll notice this more and more, and be much more conscious of these types of thoughts.
Next, pause each time you notice a judgment or expectation. Take a deep breath. Then tell yourself, “No expectations, no good or bad.” Repeat this, letting go of the judgment or expectation.
Third, seek to see things as they are, and to understand. Be curious as to why things are the way they act. Investigate, empathize, try to put yourself in people’s shoes. See the landscape of your life as it actually is, without the filter of judgments or expectations.
Next, take what comes. Experience it in the moment. React appropriately, without overreacting because it isn’t as you hoped or wanted. You can’t control life, or others, but you can control how you react.
Then, accept. When things happen, understand why they do, without judgment, and accept them as they are. Accept people for who they are. Accept yourself, without judgment, as you are. This takes practice.
Finally, know that the present moment, being as it is, also contains infinite possibilities. And those possibilities are opened up once you see things as they are, without judgment or expectations.